Destiny or Choice

I asked this very smart boy once. On his opinion on destiny VS choice. His take is you can't fight destiny (the bigger scheme of things), but the choices you make along the way can change and vary. But at the end of the day, u're back to what you're destined to do.

2nd boy answers. Something along this line but not really. His comment was "If it's never meant to be yours, it will never be". Meaning, even if you get it, but you will lose it later. So really, it's still back to destiny at the end of the day.


Let's look at some true stories.


Wife Vs Ex-Girlfriend
I hear of this lady (let's call her Kate) who recently went for this gathering and she couldn't stop crying and wanted to kill herself. She has a daughter and her husband's left her. For his ex-girlfriend. Whom he knew, longer than his wife, Kate. Kate went through thick and thin with him (including bankruptcy) and he left, after he recovered. Into the arms of his ex-girlfriend. Hmmmm. I'm thinking, is this really true love at play (ex girlfriend) or he's just an irresponsible bastard? Or is it that he was never meant to be Kate's in the first place? I think the only tangible good outcome is the daughter (who loves Kate so much). Destiny or choice?


Children From Products of Broken Marriages
I read 4 stories of children as products of broken marriages. Back to back stories. All sad sob stories. Except one girl stood out. She caught my eye. She still believes in the sanctity of marriage and wants a happy marriage and kids. I remembered she said she made a conscious choice - to be happy or dwell in the past. She chose to move on. I underline - chose.


I know this guy who heads a department in a company. He comes from a broken marriage. I remembered getting a glimpse of his tattoos and he mentioned he wanted to turn gay at one point in time. It's just so mind-boggling that now, he is happily married with a boy, so good at his job and happy. I think he is...he's smiling most times.

Another 2 friends too, made it in life, despite a very hard past. One even, at 11 years old, had to stand in front of his Dad with a tennis racquet to stop him from beating up his mum! He too, wants to get married, loves kids and want to have them one day. He's quite negative sometimes, but I think he's doing good.

But another one just couldn't overcome his fear and, as far as I'm concerned, still has a terrible phobia of marriage & kids. I think alot comes from acute phobia and negativity from his mother.


Another one is "in between" I think. He is a good boy and I hope he figures out what's best for him.


So, 2 sides of a coin, true life testimonials. Destiny or choice? You decide.