Cheating

Ok.  This is a topic which has no standard definition, again.  My friends and I stayed up one morning, arguing and discussing till 6am, till the sun came up and still, no solution.

So it figures, it's one of those things again.  Grey, not black and white.  Very grey indeed.  So I was in a chat forum and someone said it best.  31 yr old female:

"see, this whole cheating thing has many shades of grey.  I suggest asking your SO if she considers it cheating.  And by the same coin - would u consider her cheating if she danced around naked and a man gave her a "facial".  I know what the answer would be for my marriage - you need to find out what the answer is for your relationship."

So, the conclusion is...It is cheating if it's considered cheating by your other half and yourself.  Now, let's hope you and your other half have somewhat of a common standard of cheating.  

Intent and context came into parts of the forum too.  Quite good.  This guy discussed it like a lawyer's point of view.

Intent = you wanted to cheat (e.g. you wanted to kiss the other person but someone barged into the room).  Did u or did u not cheat?

Context = u did kiss another person....but were playing a role in a film.  Did u or did u not cheat?

Standard of cheating varies differently for different people and cultures too.  Example, in Arab culture, it's common for men to have many wives.  Hmmm.....